Bordyr
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Post by Bordyr on Jul 17, 2015 20:56:59 GMT
Hey guys! Today a few people have been having real life issues and I'd really like to address this as I feel we're more of a community than a server.
This goes for anyone that's having real life trouble right now or in future: I know Realm is primarily a fun and mostly immature community and we love that but there a times we can be mature and we're people too, if you guys ever need to talk, you can message someone in here, I'm sure almost everyone is willing to listen and help out, especially the older members of Realm I know are very friendly.
Doesn't matter if it's privately or open, I'll leave this thread open and sticky it so we have a place to vent. I'll try be as active as possible on this thread.
On a related note, any severe disrespect (i.e. making fun of others lifestyles or life choices or downright being rude or mean) will not be taken lightly at all. If you have any problems with other members, you can speak to me directly through forum messages and I will get the problem solved.
Thanks guys, vent away!
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Post by deweydopb on Jul 17, 2015 21:32:39 GMT
Thanks! This is actually a really good idea, and we are definitely all friends here. On that note, I could use some advice. I met a girl and we started hanging out a lot, after about five days she told me that she hooked up with a guy at a bar the night before. Should I continue seeing her? Sorry for the dead serious vent right at the start
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Post by amsterdamfox on Jul 17, 2015 22:03:29 GMT
Thanks! This is actually a really good idea, and we are definitely all friends here. On that note, I could use some advice. I met a girl and we started hanging out a lot, after about five days she told me that she hooked up with a guy at a bar the night before. Should I continue seeing her? Sorry for the dead serious vent right at the start Advice from a girl, keep talking to her, they might break up for your move. Only stop when she calls you a friend
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Post by Bordyr on Jul 17, 2015 23:45:45 GMT
Thanks! This is actually a really good idea, and we are definitely all friends here. On that note, I could use some advice. I met a girl and we started hanging out a lot, after about five days she told me that she hooked up with a guy at a bar the night before. Should I continue seeing her? Sorry for the dead serious vent right at the start It depends, are you still interested in her? Is she still with him? I'd agree with Hanna and say if you want to go for it, you've got nothing to lose, good luck!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2015 0:49:15 GMT
How did she bring it up? Seems strange to tell a person that she met after five days that she hooked up with someone else. Perhaps she felt guilty since she enjoyed your company but you guys aren't exactly committed. But who knows, I'm 28 and single, so obviously I've been wrong before.
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Post by swagmaster97 on Jul 18, 2015 1:26:33 GMT
My problem is that I haven't talked to my dad for about 3 months because he's an emotionally abusive asshole.
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Post by Bordyr on Jul 18, 2015 2:17:11 GMT
My problem is that I haven't talked to my dad for about 3 months because he's an emotionally abusive asshole. My dad was a shit dad too, topped himself off when I was 16. I realise now that he was pretty much nothing and I don't need parents to be a good person. Stay strong, man.
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Post by asha20 on Jul 18, 2015 7:44:37 GMT
I have scoliosis mainly because I'm too afraid to sleep facing any direction other than the wall ;_;
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Post by Bordyr on Jul 18, 2015 19:28:56 GMT
I have scoliosis mainly because I'm too afraid to sleep facing any direction other than the wall ;_; Ah that's tough man, hope you're okay
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Post by swagmaster97 on Jul 18, 2015 19:42:16 GMT
Also, I've been into my best friend for like 2 years, but she'll always just see me as a friend, so that sucks ;-;
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Post by Bordyr on Jul 18, 2015 19:47:01 GMT
Also, I've been into my best friend for like 2 years, but she'll always just see me as a friend, so that sucks ;-; I think a lot of people have been in this position Can totally understand how you feel man
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Post by throwawayforthevent on Jul 18, 2015 20:10:45 GMT
Erm, well. I recently broke up with my gf of 3 years. To summarise, we've been through a lot. I have an abusive father, and my next closest kin are my mother and brother, neither of which I speak to often. She's been there for me through a lot of shit people should never have to go through. Likewise for her, she suffered at the hand of her old ex, whom I guess I saved her from. Her father, grandmother, and Uncle are all suffering from cancer, her dad probably won't last the month after battling it for 4 years now. We've both become incredibly attached and I genuinely felt like I was going to marry this girl. Then about a year ago, things seemed off. I began to feel like she didn't care for me as much, and instead of talking about it properly, I ended it. Then I realised after a couple of weeks just how much of a mistake I'd made, however the damage was already done. Fast forward through 5 months of crying, anorexia, and generally treating my body through shit, and we ended up back together. I thought everything was going to be okay, yes it would be hard, but I thought we could get through it and work out all of our problems. I genuinely thought we had a shot at things. 3 weeks ago she ended it. She just wasn't happy with me anymore and said that she didn't feel secure in the relationship anymore after I broke up with her. We've been talking on and off for the past 3 weeks, it's been hard as hell, but I was just happy to have her in my life even if it was just in fleeting moments, yeah, the anorexia is back, as is massive amounts of sleep deprivation and heavy drinking, but it's been manageable. About 30 minutes ago we argued and she blocked my number from calls and texts, and has blocked me on every social media site known to man. I have no way of contacting her, and now I have to deal with the shit storm coming at me from many places at once in my life alone.
To top it off, she has no one either. Her friends are cunts who only offer to "Let's get drunk" or "Go fuck that guy", when drinking doesn't help her and she doesn't engage in casual sex. They don't know her at all. She has no one and there's now 5 people in her life dying from cancer. Her Dog recently died and another has a tumour.
It hurts so much not because I love her and that she's gone, but because I'm scared. I'm really f***ing scared for her.
P.S: I don't know the policy on throwaway accounts here, and those who I talk to on the server will know right away who I am, I just didn't want strangers seeing my post.
P.S.S: I genuinely think I may suffer from depression also, not because of this whole breakup malarky. Even at my happiest, the thought that's always seemed most appealing is to end it. It feels like it would benefit everyone so much more if I was to be gone. So, yeah. Big vent over
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Post by Bordyr on Jul 18, 2015 20:19:27 GMT
P.S.S: I genuinely think I may suffer from depression also, not because of this whole breakup malarky. Even at my happiest, the thought that's always seemed most appealing is to end it. It feels like it would benefit everyone so much more if I was to be gone. So, yeah. Big vent over It's okay to suffer from depression. Many people have gone through it and you'll come out of the other side as a better person. You need to realise in your life what makes you happy, like games or cooking or something and do them often. Trust me, it always gets better after you get through all the pain.
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Post by koloktos on Jul 18, 2015 20:38:59 GMT
P.S.S: I genuinely think I may suffer from depression also, not because of this whole breakup malarky. Even at my happiest, the thought that's always seemed most appealing is to end it. It feels like it would benefit everyone so much more if I was to be gone. So, yeah. Big vent over It's okay to suffer from depression. Many people have gone through it and you'll come out of the other side as a better person. You need to realise in your life what makes you happy, like games or cooking or something and do them often. Trust me, it always gets better after you get through all the pain. That girl. I've felt like this for years, even in Primary school. When I hit 15 I started drinking and essentially self destructing, then I met her and everything changed. Now I'm worse than ever. People have much bigger problems than me though, so I'll just ignore this stuff and help others I guess. I just needed to tell someone.
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Post by koloktos on Jul 18, 2015 20:39:30 GMT
Woops, not so anonymous now ;D
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